As a new year approaches, we once again begin our traditional lists of resolutions we will devoutly work on until about January 13th... Whether it be a new outlook on life and the future or fitness goals towards a better you, there is always a road block that prevents this. No, it is not the lack of daylight hours or the onslaught of post-overbinging on carbs...Nine out of ten times, the problem is YOU.
Shocking, I know... But we are our greatest enemy.
Imagine you are a house with many rooms. There are the rooms that are open all the time for everyone to see and then there are some that are closed and very personal. And then, at the end of the hall there is the room that is never opened. To enter that room, you would have to enter total darkness. That room is fear.
We self-sabotage ourselves at great lengths and most of the time we don't even realize it. We fear what is uncertain and do everything to protect ourselves from getting hurt. A natural defense mechanism (I mean, who WANTS to get hurt?) but how will we ever discover what we are capable of without a few scrapes and bruises along the way?
This is the year to become aware of this challenge. Each and every one of us has dreams; it's one of the perks of being human. But why let dreams stay dreams when you can make them a reality?
Here are five suggestions I give to myself that may help you as well:
1. Journal: It doesn't matter how long, but simply write. Every day. Write anything. This is an opportunity for self-discovery and you will start to notice certain patterns in your life (and possible ways to change them).
2. Surround Yourself with what You Love: Credit cards are the Devil in disguise but there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little retail therapy. True- Money does not buy you happiness but money can help build stability in your life. Stability thus allows you more room to experience moments of being content. If buying a new outfit makes your feel great, then why not use your hard earned money once and a while to treat yourself?
3. Surround Yourself with PEOPLE You Love: Just like the good old cleanse you do after the holiday sugar rush, you should do the same with the people in your life. Remember who is important. If there are negative people in your life, there isn't much hope. They will pull you down faster than the strongest current in the sea. It's better to have one true friend than to have a hundred acquaintances who don't have your best interest in mind.
4. Say What You Actually Want!: Enough beating around the bush. Speak up for yourself. This is your life. If you want something, go and get it. Don't expect that it will come to you or that you are entitled to anything. When we say how we feel out loud, we are more likely to act.
5. Prepare to Fall Down...and then Pick Yourself Up: You will fall down. You will make mistakes. You will lose sight of what is truly important. You will feel like you have failed. That's fine. Just don't stop. Keep going. Focus on your path and don't you dare compare yours to someone else's. You will get to where you want to be in your OWN time.
2013 is another opportunity for you to become your greatest. Are you ready?
J.
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